Forgiveness is such a complicated but beautiful thing.
Forgiveness is hard; but rewarding.
Forgiveness brings an abundance of peace.
I’m in a season of life that for so long I thought was about self growth, but is actuality all about forgiveness. The last few years I have learned to forgive A LOT. I’ve had to forgive wrongs that happened years ago, I’ve had to forgive someone who isn’t capable of accepting the truth, and I’m learning to forgive my father for his choices and lack of presence in my life. Forgiveness can be a hard pill to swallow and not always easy. My pain may have not been my fault, but it is now my responsibility.
Forgiveness allows us to let go of the pain in the the memory. And if we let go of the pain in the memory, we can have the memory but it doesn’t control us. When memory controls us, we are then puppets of the past
While forgiveness isn’t always reasonable, it will always bring you peace. We must learn to forgive others, but most importantly we must learn to forgive ourselves.
If we really forgive ourselves, then we would be so much more compassionate with others. It’s our lack of compassion with ourself that makes us so upset with others.
No one ever talks about how important it is to forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself is hard, but necessary. Having to truly take a deep look at yourself and learn to love the pieces of you that aren’t perfect is hard. Forgiving yourself for the decisions you made, and the role you played in our pain, is a sobering thing to face. There are so many things that I am learning to forgive myself for that I didn’t even know had any hold on me. I had to forgive the younger me and all the silly truths I believed about myself. Everyday I am learning to forgive and let get go all of the pain and hurt I’ve been holding on to. For me, forgiving myself was the best form of self love I could have given myself. Accepting that you are worthy of love is easier said than done after feeling so unworthy for so long. But I’m taking back my peace and forgiving myself for believing that I am unworthy of love.
Learning to extend forgiveness has been the biggest blessing in my life. It has brought so much peace into my life that I didn’t know I needed. To be at peace with past and it no longer defining you future is a beautiful thing. However, forgiveness is both a decision and a process. While the process is long, and still very much on-going, the process has allowed me to heal. If you don’t allow God to heal you, you won’t experience what God has in store for you.
Forgiveness is for you, not others. I pray that you always walk in forgiveness. That you get to experience the joy of what it means to truly be at peace and fully embrace you.
Until next time,